NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING

No One Owes You Anything

"You are responsible for your life. If you're sitting around waiting on somebody to save you, to fix you, to even help you, you are wasting your time. Only you have the power to move your life forward."– Oprah Winfrey

The truth is that nobody owes you anything in this life. Sitting down in my office a few weeks ago and thinking about life and people, I’ve come to understand deeply that nobody owes you anything, it is an uncomfortable truth, but it is the truth.

This simple truth took me many years to learn and sink into my subconscious. If you learn it now, it may enrich your life in ways you won't imagine. And it may prevent you from facing many problems and heartaches that have hurt people who have never learned it.

The truth is simply this:

No one owes you anything.

Just that simple, Yes, please

No one owes you anything.

It means that no one else is living for you; your happiness is not in the hand of another; because no one is you. Each person is living for himself; his happiness is all he can ever personally feel.

When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything else, you'll be freed from expecting what isn't likely to be.

It means no one has to love you. If someone loves you, it's because there's something special about you that gives him happiness.

Find out what that something special is and try to make it stronger in you so that you'll be loved even more.

This thought process also helps you to avoid the entitlement trap. It is critically important you learn how not to blame everyone for the negative results that are manifesting in your life.

When people do things for you, it's because they want to not because they owe you anything--- give them something meaningful that makes them want to please you, not because anyone owes you anything.

No one has to like you. If your friends want to be with you, it's not out of duty. Find out what makes others happy so they'll want to be near you.

This is truly powerful. The key understanding is that this is for YOU. The message isn't that you don't owe anyone anything. We owe gratitude and respect for whatever benefits we've received from others.

A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realized that no one owes me anything. For so long as I'd thought there were things I was entitled to, I'd been wearing myself out – physically and emotionally – trying to collect them.

No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence. And once I recognized that, all my relationships became far more satisfying. I've focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do.

Once you capture this truth, you will begin to understand that…

No one owes you Help,

No one owes Advice,

No one owes you success,

No one owes you a great family,

No one owes you, Love,

No one owes you friendship,

No one owes you happiness,

No one owes you a fun time,

No one owes you strong faith,

No one owes you work/life balance,

No one owes you respect,

No one owes you good health,

No one owes you a seat at the strategic table,

No one owes you … ANYTHING.

You have to work for each of these for yourself. You are responsible for managing your own life and the outcome of it. This may feel stifling until you realize the great truth: You can choose the life you want, it is your responsibility.

No one has to respect you. Some people may even be unkind to you. But once you realize that people don't have to be good to you, and may not be good to you, you'll learn to avoid those who would harm you. For you don't owe them anything either.

IF ANYBODY DOES ANYTHING FOR YOU…IT'S A PRIVILEGE, APPRECIATE IT PERIOD!