FROM FRIEND ZONE TO LOVE ZONE?

Dear Lover,

Happy Valentine's Week!

How are you loving yourself this season?

When you have someone who still texts you when you haven’t replied for hours and days the last messages, who watches you give other people attention while you ignore them or even just listens to all your complaints and is still there; you need to knock some sense into yourself, you got to tell them thank you, that you appreciate them, or perhaps that all this time you actually love them. Because some people like that are rare and special and are really hard to find in this world. 

I think that the hardest part of being in love is giving someone attention who you care so much about and not receiving the same in return while getting loads of attention and care from people to whom you are not attracted   This life no balance...

The fact that you are connected to him/her doesn't mean that is the same for them.  To put it in another way, the fact that you got a nice body, got a nice career, speaks well, or even think that there is some sort of connection doesn't mean that she is into you; the only authentic way to know is that she says "yes" to you. That you guys hang out a lot is not equal to a relationship my guy, she might just like your company and not be willing for a relationship period. And this can go either, knowing when to bounce and move on fast will do you well. Discern when she has mentally friend zoned you.

So, what is this Currency (ies) that buys true Love?

What currency does it take to convert you from friend zone to Love zone?

We often mistake branding with these currencies.

A person's branding revolves around how a person walks, talks, looks, and smells even what they drive or where they work are all branding tools. All of these are not the real thing.

Have you ever wondered why the bad girls get the good guys and why the bad guys end up with the good girls? It is simple the bad guys know how to play the game (trade with these currency)

The game of love revolves around buying and selling, until we know and understand these currencies, true love will continue to be like a mirage.

What are these currencies?

1.       Time: The unity of life is measured in time. Time is a revealer of intent. Time is the most treasured element of creation, and is the unit of life. We often equate being valued by how much time one spends with us.

2.       Attention: Whatever you give attention to grows, these people understand this, and they trade it well. Why play games with someone you know you truly love?

3.       Communication: The power of the right words can never be overemphasized

4.       Fidelity: They give you attention as though you are the only one alive.

5.       Authenticity: These guys have no time to fake anything. There are so real like daylight. 

6.     Conviction

7.       Money sense: These guys have mastered the act of having a love affair with money. (more on this in the next episode)

8.      Happiness/ Joyfulness

True love is built on Values. Before you fall, find out their values…

Through sexual love, we have the chance to solve one of the deepest, loneliest problems of human nature: how to be accepted for who we really are.

Remember, Character and Integrity are relative based on who is receiving them.  We often have a wrong perception of what integrity and character are.

Aww... I like the way he/she looks at me is not a value system. Does he/she know about your baggage and still stays? Are they contributing towards making you better today? How well do they understand your future goals and want to be part of it?

I really hope this resonates with you.

Dear Beautiful you are not an experimental object or someone’s channel to express or release their built-up sexual hormones.

Dear Handsome, you are not an ATM machine or some girls' sexual experimental toy.

I know kongi is real, and loneliness dey, but borrow yourself brain abeg, having plenty body count is not an achievement. Loneliness is also relative based on your perceived value.

Love is beautiful, and it is worth waiting for, why settle with someone who you know doesn't tick most of your boxes just because they are available? May we not marry our supposed boyfriends and girlfriends only to discover our husbands and wives.

Nothing feels good than when you meet THAT PERSON, your person, that right person at the instant there is that knowing, the connection is magical. The feeling is inexplainable.

Please don't be imprisoned with the wrong person because of Kongi or Loneliness. Life is Beautiful with the right person.

I Love you...

Mr.C … cares